I have left myself in quite a state of confusion and emotional turmoil by recently getting involved with a guy who lives in my flat (communal living at university).
I'm not too sure whether i actually like him 'that way' or not and I know that sounds daft as surely people are just meant to know... you either like someone or not.

I think my problem is my inability to trust men since my dad left when I was 7 years old. I had contact/visits with him for a while but the relationship broke down as I didn't get on well with his new wife. After this i found it very hard to trust men at all, this was made worse by my long-term boyfriend in high school cheating on me with one of my (supposed) friends.

I will point out that there are two guys in my life that I do trust and that is my brother and a friend who I have known for over 10 years.

I understand that other guys will not nesecarily be or act like my dad but I still can't trust them, I even flinch when a male teacher who I like leans in to look at my work.

Any help or suggestions on this topic would be greatly appreciated

Hey Ecogeek,

I beleive that when it comes to feelings there is nothing daft - only lots that seems confusing and sometimes confused.

It sounds like you have noticed quite a lot about your feelings and where they might come from - great that you are so in touch.  If that fellow is someone that you weren't interested in then maybe those feelings wouldn't have surfaced?  It might mean nothing more than a slight interest not a road sign that says "go for it".  Just take it in tiny steps and keep noticing those feelings and where they take you.

UM xxx