I removed a set of personality traits from my MySpace page because one of my loves (the married one) didn't like them. He said that my friends tend to focus on the negative aspects of my personality and overlook the positive. Removing the list was easier than listening to him go on about it.

The list went back up because he called me vindictive, which he thinks is negative, "but not enough to stop being with you".

I originally put up the list because I find my friend's opinions on my personality traits interesting. I learn about myself from their views of me. The original set of traits (the "negative" ones) came from a discussion we had one night over dinner. I took notes. (my married love was not at this dinner, his list came afterwards)

The "positive" ones came about because of my married love's feedback on my page.

My question for today is how do your friends see you? How does this mesh with the way you see yourself?

This is what I re-posted:

Here is a list of my personality traits according to the people closest to me (and with one exception none of these were said wihile angry):

• Per Daggar: Stubborn, Judgemental, Opinionated, Obstinate (same as stubborn, but he says it needs to be listed twice!), Non-forgiving.
  
• Per Wyn: Smug, Self Satisfied
  
• Per Sild: Cynical, Very Critical
  
• Per Oscar: Sarcastic, Condescending (But, to be fair to him we were fighting at the time. I added it to the list anyway.) Vindictive
  
• Per All of Them: "but you are still a good person!" (It's amazing what a set of dimples will let you get away with!)
  
  

OK... I am "focusing too much on the negative". Here is a list of my "positive" traits:

• Per Daggar: Silly, Smart, Determined, Decisive, I annoy him less than anyone else he's ever met.
  
• Per Wyn: Funny, Brave, She admires my ability to survive.
  
• Per Sild: Strong, Caring, I'm always available for a friend
  
• Per Oscar: Intelligent, Witty, Passionate, Sweet

Hey Thorn - how interesting... I think if my friends were asked, I'd probably be described a lot like you! he he he....

It sort of asks that question: How well do I portrey what I want to portrey to those around me... I think that we all spend a lot of time wondering how we are perceived in the world, but everyone has their positives and negatives... true friends accept your negatives, dont try and change them, and understand that the positives out weigh the negatives anyway (which it seems most of your pals agree with too!)... I have some freinds who I have known for years who drive me up the wall, but I wouldn't change them one iota!