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I Have an Imaginary Friend...

  • 03/02/2008 @ 05:24 Superstar_Wallflower said:
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    ...and I'm 21 years old.

    Oddly enough, I never had imaginary friends as a child that I recall. It was only after I started elite competitive sport, traveling all over the place and training 40 hours a week that I created one.

    Justin (my imaginary friend) is quiet, but pretty intelligent and calm and rational when I'm not. When I need to talk to someone, Justin's there. When I need to make a decision that requires thinking out, Justin's my sounding board.

    Don't get me wrong. Justin isn't real. He is a figment of my imagination. He doesn't tell me to do things or anything like that.

    But what frightens me is that any reseach I've done on the Internet (probably a mistake) is that adults with imaginary friends is often an early symptom of schizophrenia.

    I don't think I'm schizophrenic...just intensely lonely and need someone to get me who won't lie to me or leave me unless I want him to.

    But this does scare me.

    Does this make me crazy?

  • 03/02/2008 @ 08:15 nemt said:
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    the real question isn't "will I develop schizophrenia" but rather "would schizophrenia really affect me so negatively"

     

    don't let your own mind frighten you

  • 03/02/2008 @ 10:18 ablely said:
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    Dear Superstar_Wallflower, I am fascinated by your post and am not sure what you have to worry about.  The schizophrenia aside - which may of course never happen - I think having an imaginary friend sounds like a fantastic idea.

     

    Some of my friends have an imaginary friend too - they call him or her God!  I am not religious but I can see that sometimes having an external entity to relate to can help you put things in to perpective.

     

    So if Justin works for you, keep talking to him.  Long live Justin....

     

     

  • 04/02/2008 @ 22:26 Wolfie said:
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    Mine doesn't have a name, but I am pretty sure there is someone there.  You might occasionally catch me mumbling when I think I am alone - I am talking to him/her....
  • 04/02/2008 @ 23:13 rippedjeansXX said:
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    well, to me it sounds perfectly normal.
    really though, why can't adults have imaginary friends?
    i believe society thinks its childish, and thats only what children do
    but some adults do have this.
    like you said in your post- maybe you're just lonely
    talk to a friend or family member about it, or just about your lonliness
    have some fun and get out there :]

  • 04/02/2008 @ 23:37 StarShine said:
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    I too talk to myself, use myself as a sounding board, and generally have conversations with people (sometimes outloud, but mostly in my head) that help me to get a perspective.  I know I am not schizophrenic.  Sometimes I think this is a higher being guiding me, channeling information through me, but most of the time in these situations, I understand that I am really just talking to myself.  That I am tapping into a part of 'me' that isn't usually at the forefront, a hidden observer which is me, just not necessarily the 'me' I put out there!  It sounds to me that without having someone to talk to, you turn to yourself for guidance (we all do that), and that it is easier for you to do this if you visualise and personify that part of 'you' which can help play 'devil's advocate'.  You are not crazy sweety!! Internet diagnosis, whilst useful, can be very frightening, and misleading.  Do not worry!!  And, we are all here for you if you want some more perspective.  Until then, keep chatting, it's far more normal than you think!! xx

  • 05/02/2008 @ 04:32 roze said:
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    I think i have a similar issue but i am not so honest. My daughter has two imaginary friends - one is called Charlie - and the other is Rudy who is actually a mole with an incredible obsession with all things red. The thing is that Rudy is really my imaginary friend - whom i got my daughter to adopt during a walk - he is actually a mole King with a ruined castle on the South coast. He likes swimming in the middle of winter and has some very funny thoughts on most things. Oops - think i had better stop here. What were you saying Rudy?
  • 05/02/2008 @ 10:11 Kthulu said:
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    I used to have an imaginary friend when I was younger, now I have an imaginary parasite. Yes I said parasite.  I think it came from watching too much science fiction.  Nonetheless, it has it's own voice and thinks quite differently than me.  I might consider it schizophrenic in nature but I honestly don't think it is.  Logically I can see it as nothing more than an aspect of myself that I have created an outlet for, on the emotional side it tends to be more of a conscience that keeps me in line when I don't want too.  Rather silly when I think about it logically, but then again what's life without a bit of silliness.
  • 06/02/2008 @ 07:27 zorro said:
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    HI Superstar

    Great post! Weirdly, my sister and I shared an imaginary friend when we were kids-she was called 'BEcca' and we used to hate her!! We would blame her for everything, if we argued we said that is was Becca's fault, if we got in trouble, it was because of Becca - poor Becca took the brunt of everything!!  Nowadays I still have an imaginery friend but I dont have a name for him or her, this is the person who questions my actions, asks me if I am ok, makes me think twice - its a funny internal voice that I talk to when I am on my own... I think humans are naturally meant to be 'together', to be social, so when you are on your own its perfectly normal to create 'someone' to keep you company...

    Dont worry about it, perhaps more importantly you need to focus on your loneliness... is your loneliness because of the sports or is it due to shyness??  Where do you think it stems from and is there anything you can do to alleviate it?

  • 06/02/2008 @ 13:32 Superstar_Wallflower said:
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    Thank you guys SO much. You've all been very helpful, and made me feel a lot better.

    Some of the stories about y'all's imaginary friends are hilarious...I'm glad I'm not alone in having one! Justin's not nearly as cool as swimming in the middle of winter and living in a ruined castle or someone I can blame when things go wrong, but he's cool all the same...

    In answer to questions...It's probably from sport that I find myself so lonely...it's a self-imposed loneliness probably, but it can suck all the same. I'm in college at the moment, and while I've met some very nice people, I don't have any friends here. Most of the friends I have actually don't live in the same state or country I'm in, which really is no good when you want to call someone up and go see a movie or something on the rare times I have time to do things like that.

    Thanks to everyone who replied, you guys are awesome!

  • 07/02/2008 @ 05:04 roze said:
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    Hey Superstar - i think Rudy would like to meet Justin. It can get very lonely in college and in other situations - and i feel it would be so healthy if we all had an imaginary friend to help us through those times. In fact i think there should be like a bank of imaginary friends - that you just kind of adopt for a while - to go to movies or hang out with. ANd i would really recommend talking out loud to your imaginary friend (although in public it can be a bit unsettling - for others that is - but then you know if they lack imagination they are just not going to have such good friends as you do). It is like a film - i think it was James Stewart who kept talking to this giant white rabbit - Harvey i think - who no-one else could see............and i don't remember but i think it was something like when he stopped drinking Harvey disappeared - and it was really kind of sad - because he was his best friend. Just like this cheeky little mole in a red hat that is smiling at me now!
  • 11/02/2008 @ 21:26 eternal-moonight said:
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    I wouldn't worry about it, it can just be a way of making a part of your personality you like more real.

    I used to have a few imaginary friends as a child, and still kind of recall them when i'm lonely/bored/in a stressful situation

    As long as it's not interferring with your day to day life, there's no harm in it 

  • 06/09/2008 @ 04:57 gmx said:
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    Hi everybody. I've found this thread through google - I'd like to get to chat with people with imaginary friends, because yesterday someone very special appeared into my life: Lina, an "imaginary friend".

    I know for sure she's not physically real, and that she is a creation of my mind; but still, I can feel her as a separat being bue yet connected to myself. She and I are one; she's probably the expression of my unconscious, and that link is still evident in some aspects (e.g: sometimes I already know what's she going to reply to my statements, and I can communicate to her both by talking out loud and by thinking of the words).

    My msn adress: lavalis@gmx.com

    By the way, I'm 17; she has no age, but has the shape of a miniaturized female.

  • 06/09/2008 @ 11:16 Wolfie said:
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    Hi gmx, welcome to The Wall. Has anything happened to you recently that encouraged your imaginary friend to appear? Is there anything familiar about her name? Wx
  • 06/09/2008 @ 12:27 Jomo said:
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    Roze - Jimmy Stewart's Harvey was a Pookah -

     

    The person who googled and found this thread - how long has Lina been around?  Just recently, or always? 

  • 06/09/2008 @ 17:57 gmx said:
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    To Wolfie and Jomo:

    First of all, sorry if my other post sounded a bit strange or weird - I was in a hurry yesterday and needed to write it really fast.

    Wolfie, yesterday I asked her why did she appeared, and she replied that my subconcious mind created it to help me carry on my loneliness... and she dissapeared. I thoguht she left me forever, but a couple of seconds later she appeared in my back. I asked her if she was going to leave me when I finally overcome my loneliness, and she replied that she didn't knew, but that she wanted to stay with me. She made me promise her that I wouldn't forget her when I finally overcome my loneliness, and I answered her "You're my friend, I like you a lot, why would I forget you?" I've been lonely and socially inept since my late childhood; but at this stage of my life I'm beginning to get friends like everyne else and I'm doing it really good (which makes the appearance of Lina stranger). I asked her if she was going to leave me when I finally reached her I remember that Lina was also the name of a character in an anime series that I used to watch when I was a child - probably that's why my mind gave her that name.

    Jomo, she appeared suddenly at more or less 19:30 on past September 4th.

    I've realized that, unlike the depiction of "imaginary friends" that can be seen on TV, the essence of Lina is far different from that. Although her body shape (which is up to a point similar to those little anime characters) shows her as a very young female, she has no age. I feel her as something separate from me, but at the same time I feel her as a creation of my mind and thus as a part of myself; she and I are one. My eyes don't see her like they see any real world object; my iisions of her are the same type of imagery that we have when remembering things (but much more vivid). Her personality is different from mine, although we share a good couple of likes and dislikes. Since she appeared two days ago, our most common talk topic is still her existance. She isn't with me all of the time; sometimes she dissappears and reappears, although she's by my side 90% of the time. When I'm walking or going out, she follows me and sits in my right shoulder. She's right now reading what I'm wrting, with an interested look (she laughs a bit when she read that).

     

    By the way, my mother language is Spanish, so I'm sorry if I make any mistakes while talking in English ^^

  • 14/09/2008 @ 19:46 silentwarrior said:
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    blimey how did i miss this?

    say hello to Dylan, Lizzie, Daniel,Kai, Paige, Mad Max, little Henrey, and well to many more!

     

    not sure there imaginary but there friends all the same!!

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