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Losing my best friends

  • 05/02/2008 @ 22:06 pricey said:
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    When I was a kid and at college, i had a really good group of mates. We did everything together and played sport and stuff. Now a few years on and I have moved away. I don't see those mates any more and I don't have time to play sport either. I guess I am feeling like all I seem to do is work and where did the fun go?

    Sometimes I wish I could turn back the clock to when I was 18. 

  • 06/02/2008 @ 03:53 meandmy said:
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    Oh my god me too! I used to party after school...I would come home late...Go dancing on the weekends, Just being with my friends, they were like the family i never had...whistle at cute guys passing by...party...more partying...etc, etc.

    Those were the days! They were the bomb!

  • 06/02/2008 @ 10:12 zorro said:
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    Oh Pricey I know what you mean also - when I was 18 I didn't have a care in the world, I went to festivals with nothing but a spare pair of knickers in the back pocket of my shorts, I spent weeks just sofa surfing from one party to the next, i worked just so I had enough money to play, my friends were my whole world and we were inseperable, nothing was permanent, everything was fun.... but my lord it was hectic too! Sometimes I would like to have maybe one weekend back in those days, but to be honest I am really happy with where I am now, and look forward more than I look back. I wonder if there is anything right now that you are not so happy with which is making you nostalgic??
  • 06/02/2008 @ 10:32 becky172 said:
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    I'm 18, and I can tell you I look forward to the days of putting my feet up!

    If I'm not at a party, I'm at work, if I'm not at work, I'm at a party!

    I'm off to rance for 6 months this summer to work, and I feel like it's going to be the time of my life!

    But I can't wait to come back and just spend my evenings watching CSI re-runs with my brother and sister.

    Don't take life for granted, there is as much fun and excitment around now as there was then, just different people and in different forms!

  • 07/02/2008 @ 21:13 meeee said:
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    i'm 19 and i fear the time when i will wish i could go back to where i am now.
  • 08/02/2008 @ 02:24 el mariachi said:
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    Interesting talkback,
    I got a SMS 2 days ago from a friend Peter and I hadn't heard from him since November 2006. Which was the 10 year anniversary of our best mate dying. It bought us together again and we felt like nothing had changed but the fact was that at that time we both had a partner and a busy job and had not spoken for 8 months prior to that. What happens now is we send each other a sms maybe once a year. Just saying gday and talking about what we have been doing.
    Its not rude, its not impersonal, we are simply both living our lives. We do reminisce about the OLD DAYS man just saying that makes me feel older than the 32 years of age I am. But the thing is that they are memories, some great some not so great. But that's life and people do move apart, end up with different priorities etc.
    As for the fun you had when younger, getting older or more busy shouldn’t stop you from giving yourself some pleasure time.  I know we all say we are flat chat and busy but hey, if you have watched TV in the last week then you have had time to also do something fun for yourself.  Its all about organisation.  Plan a day out and then forget the plan, go and do your normal day, get home compare what you wanted to do with what you did, the next day plan it out again but follow it to the code, guarantee you get more done day 2 and if you can keep on track of it then you will learn to find a little extra time as well.  Oh, and you are on here, some of you are reading this, how long have you been on the net ?  Cut that in half instead and go for a walk, or do Pilates, or do some karaoke or pick your guitar up,  grab your camera and take some pictures.  Play your play station for exactly that half of the time you allocated to the net. Now im getting carried away, ill shut up now.

  • 08/02/2008 @ 07:15 nemt said:
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    you'll find most interpersonal relationships are fleeting
  • 08/02/2008 @ 08:38 SwimUpstream said:
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    El MAriachi you do make a good point. I waste so much of my life on my computer, or in front of the box or whatever... funnily last night I started doing pilates at about 11pm as I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep so thought it might help. I did a 50 minute work out and it felt great!

    Meee, as long as you live your life to the full you will never want to go back. I feel the same way and am way older than you, but I wouldn't go back to be 19 if you paid me!! Dont get me wrong, I loved it, but I think you grow and learn more about yourself with every year - so going back would be like un'learning... every stage in life should be the best :) 

  • 10/02/2008 @ 02:58 WillAlwaysWonder said:
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    Pricey, I'm fast approaching my 50th birthday and I too wish I could go back to 18 but, unlike most, I wouldn't want to know the things I know now.

    I was close to friends, a more open person, and so damn innocent and over protected but, looking back that was okay. I experienced "grown up" situations at a very early age - illness, death, caring for infirmed, etc., and it has frightened me and remained with me since.

     When I was in my 30's I told a therapist I wish I didn't know the things I knew. He replied that, "There's such a thing as enlightenment but no such thing as endarkenment". And so, you learn to push the bad stuff down, hold up that which is good and go on.

     Here's to 18. My mind FEELS 18 but the body smacks it back to reality. Thank God for my best friend of 30 years. She remembers, I remember and we remind one another when things get rough.

     Make time for your old buddies if you can. Old friends are SO good for the soul!

    WillAlways.Wonder 

  • 10/02/2008 @ 20:28 pricey said:
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    Perhaps it's not so much about going back to being 18, but more about the relationships I had at that time. I think its like Willalwayswonder says, the quality of the relationships I had was open and almost naive. We share, we confided and we didn't feel ashamed.

    I don't have those sorts of relationships any more. I wear a mask and no-one knows what I really think. 

  • 10/02/2008 @ 20:36 roze said:
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    I am reading this talkabout and feeling that i never have had so much fun as i have with my mates now. Last night i was out til 2am dancing and playing. Today i went for a walk with two amazing people that i love to pieces and had conversations that were so profound. This afternoon i visited a friend who is dying but we had such a great time together for an hour. When i was 18 i  just had no real appreciation of friendship as i have now. Friends need to be cherished cos if i have learned anything in the last year - it is your friends who are not just there for the good times but also when life gets rather more challenging. Just let them know how much you love them!
  • 11/02/2008 @ 07:37 Wolfie said:
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    Hi pricey, I don't want to seem too glib, but perhaps it is time to focus on the friendships you do have? It is so easy to bury yourself in work these days that quite often friendships and even marriages get completely forgotten about.  They need work and nurturing..... Love W

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