Hey Younger - what a nightmare. Your friend has behaved appaulingly. Have you confronted them? Do they know that you know what they did? Friendships are based on trust and respect - we all have enough to deal with in the world without having bad friends also, they should stick by you and be a support when things go wrong, not be the cause of wrong!

If it was me, I would have to confront her, explain that I dont want to see her any more and why.  If you let her get away with it, liklihood she will just walk all over you in the future, and frankly you deserve better than that...

SU xx

Many years ago I had a mate who dealt in second hand cars and I used to supplement my income by fixing problems on them.

All went well until he arrived at my house in a MK1 Ford Cortina which looked nice but sounded like a bucket of nails. He said he had a buyer for it but the engine needed rebuilding.

So, I removed the engine and stripped it down, he bought the required parts and I rebuilt it and put it back in the car.

When he sold it, he gave me £5.

Now although a fiver was worth more in 1974 than it is now, it was still taking the piss as payment for 3 days work.

So, I said nothing and waited for the inevitable call when he had another car to repair, and I said no, and continued to say no. Eventually he gave up asking and found another mug with mechanical apptitude.

Some years later I heard that he's run out of mugs and friends; which made me smile.

The point of that long-winded rant is to say that I would not get upset about it, next time say no and explain why if you have to. You could also warn other potential helpers.

But eventually, this person will also run out of 'friends', or maybe she'll realise and change her ways in time.