Some of you may remember that I spent to much money last month - I talked about it.  I got such good advice but of course I didn't have the courage to follow it. I didn't talk to my husbnad about what I had done and the credit card bill arrived this morning.

He is absolutely furious and he shouted at me so much that he reduced me to tears. I feel like such a helpless, powerless and useless little woman. And I feel very stupid indeed. 

Hey unionmaid - and welcome to the wall, its good to have you here :)

That is also great advice - oh dear abely! Dont worry, I am sure he will get over it. BUt I do think you need to find something else in your life to focus on so you are less emotionally reliant on your hubs and also so you can boost your own confidence a bit and not have to spend so much to make yourself happy...

Do you have a job? Could you do some voluntary work, take up a new hobby or something that you can get passionate about?? 

Thank you celticluck for your link and the rest of you for your support. 

Would you believe that at my age, my husband has placed me on a strict spending limit. I now have a very small amount to spend on 'myself' and a house hold amount for the house.

I feel like a child.  I know i did wrong by spending a bit much but it wasn't huge, but I don't work and I do.  I work at home, I raise a family, I look after the house. And yet I can't buy even tiny luxuries. I WISH i had worked but then would my kids have turned out nromally.  OK I am cross. What a wasted life and I am being treated like a child. I feel like i am being given pocket moeny.