i think we live in world where we are being told not to take risks, 'you might catch a desease', 'you might get sued', 'you might get in danger if you go to that country', 'you might say the wrong thing and upset this group of people', 'you can't do that unless you have insurance', 'you might loose your friends if you do that..', it seems to me i might loose the will to live unless i take some risks! does all this kind of thing have an effect on your emotional life and how you make relationships, i think it has on me...

i do take risks, i regularly practice an extreme sport, which can be life threatening

I left my comfortable corporate job and my vanilla husband to be a Dominatrix. I moved thousands of miles away from my home, my friends, my family and everything I love to be a Dominatrix. Now, I sort of regret that decision in a way.

My regret is that I never met that one person I could have it all with...the love, kink, respect, friendship...everything. Well, I did meet a guy like that but I couldn't be with him. He turned out to be married. And even though I love him and I still see him, I regret meeting him sometimes because he broke my heart and he changed me forever. I really can't trust anyone anymore. Thats my regret. I fear being alone.

Sadista, You are still very young. You may feel old, but you still have a lot of years ahead of you.  I believe if you leave yourself open to love it will eventually find you. I'm 15 years older than you and I've found a deep, abiding love with someone I've known since i was 14 years old. Don't give up.

I've had many adventures, but  I don't really consider them to be risks that I've taken because I was a victim of circumstance for the majority of them. I think this talkabout is about risks we've knowingly taken. Decisions we've made ourselves.

The biggest risk I've ever taken was to move to another country where I didn't speak the language and I only knew one person. I went, I found a job, I made a life for myself for four years. Then, I moved to Texas, which involved a different set of risks.

Loving has always been the biggest emotional risk for me. Even though I've been heartbroken more times than I care to remember, I still keep trying. 

I sold my beloved bungalow 5 years ago in my beloved Ireland at the age of 53 with the notion of warm winters and living frugally in early retirement. I had lived without a partner for over 20 years after a most awful marriage. I  moved to India to live on the interest and hoped eventually to return and buy another home. The prices of property triples in Irelandand going home became more and more remote. After a year here I met and settled down with someone 32 years my junior and together we have built up a real estate mini empire and are incredibly happy together. In March I am going home and putting in motion the building of my dream home, money no problem. I will have my warm winters in India and my beautiful summers in Ireland. And my darling at my side as well. It has had its difficulties and has been a lot of hard work but imagine if I had not done it at all?

Carol, wow - what an amazing story. You have really shown that taking a risk does lead to opportunity. Well done you - I am sure it took hard work and dedication - so, well done.

Hi Sadista, Life is long and you are just starting to find yourself in many ways. I am wondering why are you afraid of being alone? what happens to you when you are alone............. I love to be alone but have to be careful that the space does not start to get too big and frightening. I have to make the effort to contact people, even just go for a walk and talk to someone in a shop, say hi, so that I am connected again to the world. What happens to you when you are alone?

Roze - I'm intrigued about Kosovo. Tell me more.......

Hi Gookle,

I think those are sometimes the greatest risks of all but also the ones with the greatest possibility of pay-off.  I am glad yours worked out.  I really regret the times I didn't take that kind of risk!

Meercat

Hello lostgirl, welcome to Big White Wall - I am not sure that I have seen your around before.

You seem to be having a really hard time at the moment and I hope that can see some light in your life in that you are out of an abusive relationship.

I am worried that people might not see your post on this TA - if you do want to talk about what's going on for you generally or something specific, I hope you will start a Talkabout - it just helps to get noticed!

Great to see you here and be stong for your babies.

Wx