Throughout the past few years, I've made it my goal to not repeat the mistakes I've made that got me in certain "situations". I've made sure I haven't put myself in situations that would "tempt" me ... that wouldn't make me think of it (although it's inevitable!) I mistakingly assumed that all people were like this ... at least people who thought badly of their mistakes. There was one point that I kind of "fell off the wagon" ... and began back down the path I got off of ... but quickly fixed things to make sure I didn't. Again ... I thought people were like that too.

My best friend is about to repeat a mistake and I don't know how to help her. I've never been on the opposite end. You see ... a while back, she left her husband for another man. It didn't work out and they ended up back together ... which is where they are now. A certain "male coworker" has shown some interest ... and she likes it. She hasn't had much self esteem throughout her life, which is odd because she's beautiful ... so when she get's the male attention (especially when it lacks at home) ... it gets her giddy and interested. It has potential to be a huge temptation ... a possible mistake. For now, they are nothing, they text message, etc. ... but I know it can get further. It's all recent and I want to think it will die out, but I hear her saying things like ... "You know how "husband" doesn't do that". I get afraid for her ... but don't know how to help her.

Don't get me wrong, I don't judge her by any means. She said that she hopes I can accept her for the way she is ... and I absolutely do no matter what. She is my best friend. I love her a ton. I know by experience that temptation can lead to going "all in" if there are no resourceful places to get it out to. I'm here, ready to listen to whatever she needs, but I don't know what to say or do. I don't know how to convince her "out of it" ... I know she doesn't want to make this mistake. I always tell people who ask me the same question that people must make their mistakes to learn ... that they will not grow without them. That we should be there when it all breaks to help them, even though we may have done things differently if roles were reversed. But today I can't accept that. There has to be something more ... something to say or do ... What would you say to her?

I would go with Isabella. Confirm that she is attractive- and therefore likely to attract men but also tell her that flirting and enjoying the attraction is a step far from having an affair.

Maybe she should try to imagine what it means if all the men at her workplace are attracted to her: does that mean she would have to "work her way" through all of them?