Perhaps remember who you were just over two months ago - and who you are still. However much it hurts perhaps it is better that he has been honest. Until you are two when together - and not three with the one he still carries with him - life is likely to feel a little crowded. I guess from what you write that he has got beneath your skin? It happens - and it does not always happen in the best moments or times. When i formed my last long-term relationship i realised within a matter of weeks that i was far from over the last relationship I had. Strangely now i am over both. Know who you are, reflect on self with other but be aware not to find yourself a reflection of another. The greatest challenge in life - to feel that you can live it alone and live it well - even if you would prefer to be with someone. The essential you can never be taken by anyone - however much it feels like you are lost when they are not there in the way you would like them to be. Do you feel you can find strength in who you are in this time and try to let him go for now?

I can understand that. Can you say where things were looking up from - have you had a rough patch? You know, sometimes we enter into something without really knowing what we feel - sometimes it takes us being with someone else to wake us to what we are really feeling - they are like some kind of mirror. Now - in this time - he is honest with you (big step) and he has been able to be truthful to his own feelings (as they are now). If it is meant to be it will happen. Somehow can you find some courage to not feel defined by this - for you are not - you have encouraged emotional honesty in someone else which means that they are far from indifferent to you. Can you give him real space - let him mourn or do whatever he needs to do - and get on with your life somehow. If you are core to him - which he may not realise now - he will come there by himself. For now, focus on you and what will help you feel good about yourself and not you in relation to him. Do you feel able to do that?