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I hurt

  • 20/05/2008 @ 21:55 kylie said:
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    I feel like I have been played like an unnamed instrument. I feel like you have held out so much promise and dropped in to my life only to move away again quickly. I feel used. I do believe you loved me but not enough. I feel I was an escape route you chose not to take. I am worht more than this.
  • 20/05/2008 @ 22:12 roze said:
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    Hey kylie. What is going on? Would you like to talk more about this? Sounds like you are hurting? Big hugs, roze
  • 20/05/2008 @ 22:20 Swon said:
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    Hi Kylie,

     

    I'm guessing but it sounds like you've been mixed up with someone who is scared of committment and / or responsibility.

     

    You're assured of a sympathetic ear hear - so let it out.

     

    Take care.

  • 20/05/2008 @ 22:22 kylie said:
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    Just a guy who hit me hard. Hell it is early in the morning here and i have just got the kids out and i am wondering who is there for me? There was a man but I think it is all to difficult. He is married. Autumn too which does not help.
  • 20/05/2008 @ 22:26 UMxx said:
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    Dear Kylie,

     

    I agree with roze - it sounds like you are hurting so much and that is a really lonely place to be.  The Wall has lots of good folk who have great ears for listening so I hope you feel comfortable in sharing what is going on for you and let others give you some of the support you need.

     And more big hugs from me too  UM x

  • 20/05/2008 @ 23:07 kylie said:
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    I just want someone who is there for me. It seems that sometimes that is too much too ask.
  • 21/05/2008 @ 03:52 cate said:
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    Hi Kylie , I'm so sorry you are hurting, Could you tell us a liitle more about your needs and why these are not being met . What would you make life easier to cope with?

    If you can share your feelings perhaps we can better understand what you are going through. Big hugs , Cate

  • 21/05/2008 @ 07:32 Swon said:
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    Kylie, even though your messages are quite short, there is a great 'feeling' of sadness, almost desperation in them.

    Although we can't 'be there' in a physical way, there are lots of people here who care so keep talking - it sometimes seems futile but it does help.

     

    Take care.

  • 25/05/2008 @ 10:56 kylie said:
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    I suppose I just feel that for so many years I have been there for others. Holding together my family, my work, my friends. And lately I have just wanted someone to be there for me and I thought that i had found that but it is difficult. I have been stupid enough to fall in love in a way that I have never felt before. The stupidity is that he is married. I know he feels as I do. He has said that he will leave his wife. There are no children involved. But I know the statistics and I worked through my own marriage break up recently and it is so very hard to finally walk out of that emotional door. I have a demanding job and two wonderful but small children. Sometimes, at night, when they are asleep I just find myself crying because all i want is for him to be here and to hold me and to take care of me without me having to ask. 
  • 25/05/2008 @ 11:41 UMxx said:
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    Hey Kylie,

     

    It sounds like you have hit a low point.  I don't know whether there is ever an intelligent way of falling in love but it sounds a bit rough to judge falling in love with this bloke as an act of stupidity.  Sure it is complicated from what you describe but starting from a point of getting into name calling with yourself is not going to help you feel strong about  the future.  It sounds quite normal to crave a person in your life to hold you and love you - and as for feeling love in a new and different way well there is a big wow factor as well as all the unsettling feelings that go with it.

     

     

    As for statistics, well they are good for indicating a whole range of things but I don't know that they can measure love - what do you think this fellow will do?  Do you think he is being fair dinkum in what he tells you?  I like this quote from Einstein  

    “Everything that can be counted does not necessarily count; everything that counts cannot necessarily be counted.”

    Albert Einstein

    Maybe instead of looking at the stats what needs to be assessed is the love and the commitment factor.  Possible???

     

    Big hugs  UM xx 

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