Hey Wolfie,

If you are thinking about this then I am guessing that you want to extend a hand of support.  What can you lose?  Not dignity or respect - I think you would gain both of those.  Even if the person didn't want to confide or lean on you - I doubt that anyone would be upset with concern and an offer of support.  

Have you been hurt before making such an offer?  UMxxx 

Hi Wolfie,

What I grabbed onto in your explanation was the description that she has no interests outside of her 2 kids.

My own mother, who had 4 kids, also had no interests outside of her kids for a long time... and she had the same situation, back pain etc. that really started a slide into deep depression and other stuff.

So from my viewpoint, I would suggest a really simple activity of somesort where she gets to do something, focus on herself, talk about whatever... you know totally casual, not too pressing.  If you and a group of ladies get together for lunch every now and then or for some other activity... those are the things that bring people happiness :). 

And since you aren't really close to her, that is a good opening for creating a stronger trust should she ever want to open up and speak with you about feelings! (or maybe it could become a group activity also!)

Anyways, good luck caring soul!