Dear flygurl,

this person has acted cruelly to make the accusation and from what you say, has decided to tell everyone.  Are you able to tell others that it is untrue?  or have you been unable because of the hurt?

I am not sure whether she in linking the loan of money and her allegation of theft of the same amount of money?  If you want, how about telling us the story in more detail.  Are your mutual friends supportive of you?

Can I say this, being tall and feeling like you stand out - is maybe another discussion and even if you were a small person, having allegations like this made of you within your friendship group would probably make you feel under the same scrutiny as now. I had a school friend who came from a very tall family - this was years ago before Australia had heard of Basketball and tall people were few.  

My school friend a girl was 6"2 1/2 by the time we were 14.  She was the second shortest - one brother only made it to 6"2 - but one sister hit 6"41/2.  I could only see how wonderful it was for her to be tall - I am very average in terms of height.

I was with the family one day at the International Airport waiting for someone to arrive and all of a sudden we were surrounded by tourists from an nearby country who could not beleive their eyes and they started taking photos.  I only understoon then what it might feel to always stand out and be viewed as so different and worthy of people gawking at you.  Your story has brought back the days of tears and anger that she had in our school years.   I am sorry if you are struggling because others constantly make you feel different because of your height. 

Thinking of you and sending a big hug  UM xx 

Hey flygurl,

You have the words for us on the site - you don't want to stand out and you don't want to be the brightest person in the room and you feel small inside.  That was a great way of explaining how you feel - but it must feel horrible for you.  What do you think your friendship group would do if you told them how you feel?  Do you think that they might try to understand that even though you have a reputation based on your academic record and people literally have to look up to you that they might understand that you have strong feelings that are quite different?

If you don't that's okay not all of us feel that our friends are able to support us - either because we don't quite trust them or because it is just a big step to allow others to understand us.

Do you know why you feel low and small?  Is there something that is under these feelings that you are aware of? 

Hello flygurl, Have you spoken to your friend again since this all blew up or have you moved on? How are you feeling?