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Rediscovering Friendship

MeerCat
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Brick created on 25/08/2008 @ 23:56

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Last weekend I spent the day with a friend that I had not seen for 20 years. A very special friend from my teens. Why hadn't I seen her? Same reason I have lost touch with most of my friends, by the time I had met the needs of my family and work there was no time left.

It was a terrific day and after she left I spent the evening with tears streaming down my face for lost time.

Yesterday my husband and I spent the day with other shared friends from way back. I had dreaded the day but it was wonderful.

I am just realising exactly how much I gave up for my job and how very grateful I am that those friends are generous enough to still be there when I got round to realising how much I love them.

However great a job is, it doesn't love you back.

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  • 26/08/2008 @ 10:14 Jomo said
    Jomo

    I am so glad for you, MeerCat, that you have found your friends still there for you - what a beautiful thing.

    You are so right about the job - it is love, and people, who are important, who make our lives -

    Celebrating your re-found friendships -

    Jo XXXX

  • 26/08/2008 @ 10:46 ant said
    ant

    No a job does not come close to equalling friendship. But was it a refuge as well as a job?

    It is brave of you to revisit these friendships ant :)

  • 26/08/2008 @ 12:11 MeerCat said
    MeerCat

    I don't think my job was a refuge but it was all absorbing and rewarding and I allowed myself to think it was the most important thing, sometimes even taking priority over my family although not in major ways. Ant I can't even claim to be brave, my friends sought me out and although I was nervous about seeing them again because I thought they would blame me for ignoring them for so long, they turned out to be even more generous than I remembered.
    When I retired I promised myself that I would not put anything before the people that matter to me ever again and I am already so glad to be doing that. The wall is also teaching me a lot about people and what really matters so thank you all for that.
    Meercat x

  • 27/08/2008 @ 01:13 Jomo said
    Jomo

    Lotsa luv to you, MeerCat - we are all travellers, here, I reckon -

  • 28/08/2008 @ 07:20 ant said
    ant

    Meer Cat, You are brave because in spite of how nervous you were you still made yourself present for them - you didn't run or hide. That is brave. :) ant:)

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