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• 07/09/2008 @ 07:04 harmony said

  

  Panther, what is the person leaning, lookin sad, on in the pic - could it be the barrier that prevents them doing what they want?

• 07/09/2008 @ 08:34 ant said

  

  OOh I like Ani Defranco but she gets into my head with lyrics so I have to ration her or else.

  I guess it is one of the fundamental questions about who we are - how is it that we know from our behaviour who we are.

• 07/09/2008 @ 13:34 Jomo said

  

  Are you thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of that fence?

• 07/09/2008 @ 14:55 panther said

  

  You're onto it Jomo. Maybe, it really is. Or maybe it isn't. How do we know?
  I got a good union job with a pension. I wonderful long term relationship. A cute house (which is now worth about $80k less than we paid for it, but that we love nonethesless). So I've got a good stable situation. Which is great. Stability is good for me. But it's also a situation I feel stuck in. All of a sudden, my options are closed. I chose a path and that's it. My partner would point out this is my classic dilemma--I'm never satisfied.
  Maybe it's true.
  -panther

• 07/09/2008 @ 21:43 Jomo said

  

  Maybe, dear Panther, you need to sit still where you are for a bit, which seems a safe enough place for now, and search deep into your soul, and seek for that which would satisfy you.

  
  Maybe you need to set aside a "mental year" to allow yourself to grow and think and establish what are the most important things to you.

  I guess I would say to you, with feeling - don't jump ship until you are sure - because once you jump ship, you are in the water again - if you do make, or need to make changes to your life, make them gentle for yourself - take care of you, eh?

  If you are in a safe place now, this can be really useful as a base to look out what you need?

  Sometimes when we have been badly hurt, we mistrust the safety we find, or even deep inside feel we do not deserve this; or seek to destroy the peace, before it destroys us - following old patterns, using old ways?

  Love
  Jo

• 07/09/2008 @ 22:28 panther said

  

  I know you are right Jomo, but it can't stop the wondering.
  

• 09/09/2008 @ 11:25 ant said

  

  Hi Panther - I just wonder if the feeling stuck is about feeling fearful of having a deeper relationship and knowing that staying might require that? I think that Jomo is right about giving yourself time - and stay here and keep talking hey? It can work out for you but it might take a bit of support and love from those here and your partner and friends.

  Maybe it has nothing to do with satisfaction - maybe it is about this kind of relationship and stability being new for you? xx