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• 23/08/2008 @ 03:29 inspire said

  

  No idea where to find him, although your message in this brick is wonderful ... about diversity.
  Lots of sleepy hugs coming your way ... Inspire xoxo

• 23/08/2008 @ 06:01 UMxx said

  

  On a pm? he is around - careful though he is getting ready for winter and might be getting ready for a spell. UM x

• 23/08/2008 @ 08:54 Brown Bear said

  

  Hello Maidens [that can't upset you, UM - you are one!]. I am warmed by your care and concern. I have been feeling jaundiced about the Wall since last weekend: that combined with an upset with Mary sent me spiralling down. But the sun is shining brightly today and things are looking better already. I'm not sure that I want to do TAs but I've been trying to encourage Harmony with her brave and determined attempt to exorcise her demons. I decided that working on people's bricks might be a bit more rewarding and a bit less daunting. But I've been in purdah for the last two days.
  And there is a PM for me too. I have had nothing but big demoralising zeros for what seems like a month. Note: I must send more PMs to my friends.

  Thank you for caring. Love BB

• 23/08/2008 @ 09:05 Jomo said

  

  Hooray! The Bear has emerged from hibernation and is feeling a little sunnier today. Excellent. Sunshine is good for defeating jaundice, I think? Is that right, some of you medical peeps out there?

  Love to all
  XXXXXXXXXXXx

• 23/08/2008 @ 10:01 harmony said

  

  Hi, great bear, Jomo, nad great message.

  Glad you're feeling a bit better Bear. And your encouragement and concern in helping me exorcise my demons has been very much appreciated and has been very validating.I am not used telling people about my life (other than in therapy, on a one to one) so getting responses which indicate that ordinary people see my life as having been difficult (and not just me being over dramatic and whinging)is very good for me..so thank you for that, poweful but tender Bear. There is much mores to come but I need to control the flow as I feel I could get washed away in a flood!

  Love Harmony

• 23/08/2008 @ 10:21 UMxx said

  

  
  Goodness Harmony, Do you honestly ever doubt that your life was other than a bloody trial? I don't feel you are dramatic at all in how you communicate what happened to you - in fact I find you a little understated and wonder how you deal with anger - well actually I wouldn't mind some tips on that _ hopeless about anger.

  You know your courage in disclosing your story is very powerful and a great role model for people like me who would rather have their teeth pulled out with rusty pliers than be open on the wall. This shows personal growth on my part as once I would have said that I would prefer to travel naked to work than be very open. (This from the women who believes that it is important to keep a good and generous covering of clothes upon her body when out in public).

  And BB - yes I am in all truth a maiden here - Jomo calls me maid - which I like too. Sunshine is wonderful for defeating jaundice but I can't remember which when particular ray it is. I guess it depends on the nature of the jaundice - my doona must emit a special ray because that's where I get my comfort and repair from :) UM

• 23/08/2008 @ 16:24 Brown Bear said

  

  Thank you so much, lovely maidens, for bring your kindness and sunshine into my life.

  • Harmony: You just must realise that the hell that you went through is worse than anything I've ever previously heard of. No way are you whinging or being overdramatic. I feel privileged that I am able to learn about the darker side of life from you - and if at all possible I want to do whatever I can to relieve the awful effects even if its just listening and understanding. I think you are doing really well and I'm here for the long haul - I know there's a lot more to come.

  • UM: I am really surprised that you are feeling that you must refrain from offloading stuff here - that feels like a bit of an indictment, that we might think worse of you for doing so; that you might somehow be criticised. You don't have to be the big strong carer all the time, you know. I'm not, Swon's not nor is Summer or Jomo. Who is?

  • Jomo, thank you for this heartwarming brick.

  Love you, Maidens. BB

• 23/08/2008 @ 20:32 Mebenji said

  

  Hi there,

  It's interesting, and perhaps I should address this to Summer somewhere, how we term emotional reticence with the word 'jaundice' - a physical symptom associated with such as hepatitis B, liver malfunction/failure? And being yellow with with cowardice: jaundice is yellow. Odd how some words link to others...

  Bear, even if some things irritate me, get under my skin (which is usually rally tough, I MUST think, whether true or not) I most welcome your presence here on BWW. Sometimes the reason someone might be percieved as an irritant, or something which is said is so irritating can be much more about US than anything at all about you...you know, a little displacement goes a long way!! :)

  & yes, Harmony, about that comment indicating your concerns about being percieved as being overly dramatic and whinging - I get that...just recalling how being upset (apparently) for no good reason, might hear my father say, "what're you crying for?/Stop crying - you want something to cry about; I'll give you something to cry about!" We knew what that meant. & how many things weren't "That bad"? Too many to count. After all when you have a roof over your head, (& note, it is always, always was and always will be Their House' not yours - parents didn't share ownership with kids), and food in your belly (don't forget, or in case you do, it can be withheld, denied, etc. you can go without a meal or two if you don't follow their rules...) then what have you got to complain about? They gave you life, didn't they? So, whatever else they give you is a bonus? Or for your own good?
  Anyway it was just a little slap...

  gggrrrr...yes, Harmony, what happened to your anger - have you skipped that entirely as a pointless and useless exercise in futility? That's how I'd felt about it - and disallowed it - now I'm wondering, since I now feel my anger anyway, what is it doing for me? I'm not clear on that at all. 'Cause I don't like it; I don't feel I am able to adequately Behaviorally express it - some words from time to time help, but somehow doesn't ever feel enough...

  ((((Hugs))))

  -Mebenji