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• 06/10/2008 @ 08:57 ant said

  

  Hi Aleena,

  There are times that you have to come first - and this is when you are losing yourself within a relationship. This relationship doesn't sound as if there is much that is being given to you.

  What is love - if it is what makes you feel this way. It just doesn't sound like love is returned to you - why do you love this person if they are detroying you?

  I wish you whatever you need to be at peace with yourself in this time ant xx

• 06/10/2008 @ 14:22 Aleena said

  

  thank you ant.. i know all that you say is true.. but it is just so hard...where does one get the strength to do something for themselves...?

• 06/10/2008 @ 18:42 ant said

  

  that is a really hard question - I don't pretend to know the answer for everyone - have you thought about starting a talkabout ? you will probably get better information from a broader group.

  In my mind - I think this sort of strength comes from a mixture of places - wanting to not get lost completely in a relationship that isn't good for us, sensing that we could be happier if we changed something = and for some maybe anger that despite our love that we weren't being treated well. I am not sure = I really think this is a hard question - so maybe I need to reflect more on this. ant xxx

• 07/10/2008 @ 12:52 Aleena said

  

  yes i was thinking of starting a talkabout...
  the strength comes but only for very small moments... its very easy to go weak around someone you love...i guess i just have to really really focus on myself to get such a strength...its still hard..