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• 01/03/2008 @ 07:57 Wolfie said

  

  Hi lorraine, I don't think I have seen you around The Wall before - welcome.

  How long have you been with your partner? How long have you felt this way? Of course you shouldn't share in her depression - but if you can, you need to be there to support her while she finds happiness. Love Wolfie x

• 03/03/2008 @ 19:37 Gigagnat said

  

  I live with someone in chronic pain ... I feel you.

• 08/03/2008 @ 06:06 lorraine said

  

  Yep, it's so hard. It's never: '...this week it's going to be a good week'. It's always: '...will this week be a good week?'
  My biggest fear is that I'll be dragged down the road of depression myself. After all how long can you live with someone and not be affected?

• 08/03/2008 @ 22:50 Wolfie said

  

  I don't know lorraine, how long can you? how does it affect you? and is it a permanent state of mind for your partner or does it ebb and flow.

  I suppose we all have to deal with our partner's emotional baggage - I have a husband that explodes regular as clockwork and then will not speak to me for a week - it's hard isn't it.

  Wx

• 08/03/2008 @ 23:47 lorraine said

  

  It's a state of 'forever and ever'. So it's something that I have to live with. What I'm learning is that I need to be strong enough to say : today I'm going to take care of me..I'm going out, I'm confident that you can get through today.' But, when I do that, and I'm away, I worry that things are ok...sometimes they are, sometimes they aren't.

• 08/03/2008 @ 23:50 Wolfie said

  

  I think you just talked about something important - keeping a sense of self for you and a little bit of independence from 'the problem' .

  I hope you don't mind me asking. Is you partner under the care of someone? other than you?

  Wx

• 08/03/2008 @ 23:54 lorraine said

  

  Yep: physicitrist and psycologist and much medication